You replied to the top-level post, not to her reply, so she may not see it. But it hardly matters. We're men, so we're automatically wrong, and she's a victim, so she's automatically right. Argument has nothing to do with it.

You may well have a point about the problem-solver versus venting problem, though. It's not at all easy for me to hear about problems without wanting to try and do something about them, and even when intellectually I know the person is just trying to vent their spleen, it raises my blood pressure to not be able to Do Something.