Nonetheless, by dinnertime you made me feel attacked and bullied, demanding quick answers to your questions about my credentials for even having an opinion again and again. You made me really uncomfortable. Is that what you wanted?
Only you can choose to feel like a victim.
Is it more important to be right than it is to be decent and respectful to someone?
I'm sorry, I didn't realize that being "decent and respectful" meant "agreeing categorically about how incredibly unfair it is that we don't do things the way you want them done." I suppose I should be happy that you consider the Hugo Awards to be sufficiently important to concern yourself with them, but what it really seems to mean is that you think that it's so terribly unfaaaaair that you should have to pay to join a club in order to help decide what awards that club wants to present.
Remember, I'm someone who thinks we do actually charge too much for memberships. And when I express that opinion among conrunners, I'm the one getting criticized for it. It's going on elsewhere right now, but the list isn't like LiveJournal. You think I'm bad? You should read some of the other comments about what a bad idea introducing a $20 Hugo-voting-only membership would be. I'm the person who was working relatively quietly on the inside trying to persuade a Worldcon to offer such memberships, but that's unlikely now because they know how much static they'll get from the very people whose goodwill they need to put on their convention.
And then you told me to go away and called me a Nazi and someone who should be removed from the world. And you call me disrespectful?
Now you have linked to my blog here, and I have had to erase several really vile comments this morning telling me what a rotten person I am.
I saw the comments. You mis-spelled "comments that disagreed with me." Notice that I'm not deleting your comment here, even though you don't agree with me. Note that I didn't delete the comments of some of the people elsewhere in this thread, even when they told me I probably came on too strong. (And they are right. I should have let the whole thing drop. I appreciate them telling me this even though it doesn't make me very happy.)
I did NOT link to your LJ in my angry post, Kevin, because I didn't want my friends to come here and harrass you. Note that they have not come here to say mean things about you. I wouldn't want that.
I don't care if you link to my LiveJournal; feel free to do so. If I didn't want people reading what I wrote, I wouldn't write it. If I wanted to limit its distribution, I'd friends-lock it. I've never had to ban someone (spammers excepted), nor tell people to "go away." My only restriction is that I screen anonymous posts and usually won't clear them if they're unsigned.
And I think it is abusive to send your friends to my blog to name-call.
I did not "send my friends to name-call." You told me to go away and stop answering. I did so, after answering the questions you asked of me, and then I vented about it on my LiveJournal. Oh, are you saying that you're allowed to vent about things that annoy you in your LJ but other people aren't?
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Re: Hi Kevin
Date: 2008-03-25 06:23 pm (UTC)Remember, I'm someone who thinks we do actually charge too much for memberships. And when I express that opinion among conrunners, I'm the one getting criticized for it. It's going on elsewhere right now, but the list isn't like LiveJournal. You think I'm bad? You should read some of the other comments about what a bad idea introducing a $20 Hugo-voting-only membership would be. I'm the person who was working relatively quietly on the inside trying to persuade a Worldcon to offer such memberships, but that's unlikely now because they know how much static they'll get from the very people whose goodwill they need to put on their convention.
And then you told me to go away and called me a Nazi and someone who should be removed from the world. And you call me disrespectful?I saw the comments. You mis-spelled "comments that disagreed with me." Notice that I'm not deleting your comment here, even though you don't agree with me. Note that I didn't delete the comments of some of the people elsewhere in this thread, even when they told me I probably came on too strong. (And they are right. I should have let the whole thing drop. I appreciate them telling me this even though it doesn't make me very happy.)I don't care if you link to my LiveJournal; feel free to do so. If I didn't want people reading what I wrote, I wouldn't write it. If I wanted to limit its distribution, I'd friends-lock it. I've never had to ban someone (spammers excepted), nor tell people to "go away." My only restriction is that I screen anonymous posts and usually won't clear them if they're unsigned.I did not "send my friends to name-call." You told me to go away and stop answering. I did so, after answering the questions you asked of me, and then I vented about it on my LiveJournal. Oh, are you saying that you're allowed to vent about things that annoy you in your LJ but other people aren't?