So when a woman, or anyone, tells you that you are making her uncomfortable and she feels you are bullying her, it is her fault because she is choosing to feel like a victim.
So when any person, regardless of gender, calls you an abusive Nazi, that person is automatically right and the person being called -- if he's a man -- is automatically wrong?
You want to know something: I hadn't bothered looking at your profile, and I don't know you personally. It took quite a while in our exchange yesterday before I even noticed your gender. This is LiveJournal! Lots of people hide behind anonymous user names and icons. I don't always go look at profiles, and lots of people don't say much in their profiles anyway, or they lie. I did not and do not care what your gender is. I would have said the same things to anyone. Okay, I probably came on too strong, but that's because people told me when I was coming up, "If you want to change things, do it yourself," and I said, "Okay," and did it. I didn't sit back and whine about the unfairness of it all.
I'm sorry, truly sorry, that I've put you off from attending Worldcons. I wouldn't have devoted a really significant chunk of the last twenty years of my life to them if I wanted to drive people away from them. I can, however, tell you that if you should happen to change your mind, you will find hundreds or even thousands of interesting people with a shared interest in the genre, none of whom are me. If you truly are a fan of SF/fantasy literature, you will find something -- many things, actually -- that you will enjoy, without ever having to deal with Evil Abusive Hugo Nazi Men. For you, the Secret Master of Fandom who actually do the work to make the conventions happen can remain secret.
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timeasmymeasure
Re: Hi Kevin
Date: 2008-03-25 07:03 pm (UTC)You want to know something: I hadn't bothered looking at your profile, and I don't know you personally. It took quite a while in our exchange yesterday before I even noticed your gender. This is LiveJournal! Lots of people hide behind anonymous user names and icons. I don't always go look at profiles, and lots of people don't say much in their profiles anyway, or they lie. I did not and do not care what your gender is. I would have said the same things to anyone. Okay, I probably came on too strong, but that's because people told me when I was coming up, "If you want to change things, do it yourself," and I said, "Okay," and did it. I didn't sit back and whine about the unfairness of it all.
I'm sorry, truly sorry, that I've put you off from attending Worldcons. I wouldn't have devoted a really significant chunk of the last twenty years of my life to them if I wanted to drive people away from them. I can, however, tell you that if you should happen to change your mind, you will find hundreds or even thousands of interesting people with a shared interest in the genre, none of whom are me. If you truly are a fan of SF/fantasy literature, you will find something -- many things, actually -- that you will enjoy, without ever having to deal with Evil Abusive Hugo Nazi Men. For you, the Secret Master of Fandom who actually do the work to make the conventions happen can remain secret.